Njengomama, umsebenzi katata unzima yaye maxa wambi ude udimaze, ukukhulisa abantwana.Nangona kunjalo, ngokungafaniyo nomama, ootata bahlala bengafumani ngqalelo ngokwaneleyo ngendima yabo ebomini bethu.
Bangabaniki, abasasaza iziqhulo ezimbi kunye nababulali beebhugi.Ootata bayasivuyisa kwelona nqanaba liphezulu kwaye basifundise indlela yokoyisa elona nqanaba lisezantsi.
Utata wasifundisa ukuphosa ibaseball okanye ukudlala ibhola.Sithe xa siqhuba basizisa evenkileni amavili agqabhukileyo nezibonda kuba besingazi ukuba sigqabhuke ivili sicinga nje ukuba kukho ingxaki kwivili lokuqhuba (uxolo tata).
Ukubhiyozela uSuku lukaTata kulo nyaka, iGreeley Tribune inika imbeko kootata abohlukeneyo kuluntu lwethu ngokubalisa amabali kunye namava ootata babo.
Sinotata oyintombazana, utata womthetho, utata ongatshatanga, utata owamkelayo, utata womtshato wesibini, utata womcimi-mlilo, utata osele ekhulile, utata oyinkwenkwe kunye notata omncinci.
Nangona wonke umntu engutata, wonke umntu unebali lakhe elahlukileyo kunye nombono wento abaninzi abayibiza ngokuba “ngowona msebenzi ubalaseleyo emhlabeni”.
Sifumene izintlu ezininzi kakhulu malunga neli bali kuluntu, kwaye ngelishwa, asikwazanga ukubhala igama labo bonke ootata.I-Tribune inethemba lokuguqula eli nqaku libe ngumsitho waminyaka le ukuze sikwazi ukunika ingxelo ngamabali amaninzi ootata kwindawo yethu.Ke ndicela nibakhumbule aba tata kulonyaka uzayo, kuba sifuna ukukwazi ukubalisa amabali abo.
Kwiminyaka emininzi, uMike Peters wayesebenza njengentatheli yephephandaba ukwazisa uluntu lwaseGreeley kunye neWeld County ngolwaphulo-mthetho, amapolisa kunye nolunye ulwazi olubalulekileyo.Uyaqhubeka nokubhalela iTribune, wabelana ngeengcinga zakhe kwi-“Rough Trombone” rhoqo ngeMigqibelo, kwaye ubhala iingxelo zembali zekholamu ethi “Iminyaka Eli-100 Edlulileyo”.
Nangona ukuba nendumasi eluntwini kuyinto entle kwiintatheli, inokubacaphukisa abantwana babo.
“Ukuba akukho mntu uthi, ‘Owu, ungumntwana kaMike Peters,’ awunakuya ndawo,” wongeze ngelitshoyo uVanessa Peters-Leonard encumile.“Wonke umntu uyamazi utata.Kumnandi xa abantu bengamazi.”
UMick wathi: “Kufuneka ndisebenze notata izihlandlo ezininzi, ndiye kuchithachitha esixekweni, ndize ndibuye xa kukhuselekile.”“Kufuneka ndidibane neqela labantu.Iyonwabisa.Utata kumajelo eendaba ukuba udibana zonke iintlobo zabantu.Enye yezinto.”
Udumo oluhle kakhulu lukaMike Peters njengentatheli lwaba nefuthe elibonakalayo kuMick noVanessa ekukhuleni kwabo.
UVanessa uthi: “Ukuba kukho nantoni na endiyifundileyo kutata, luthando nengqibelelo.“Ukusuka emsebenzini wakhe ukuya kusapho nabahlobo bakhe, nguye lo.Abantu bayamthemba ngenxa yokubhala kwakhe ingqibelelo, ulwalamano lwakhe nabantu, nokubaphatha ngendlela afuna ukuphathwa ngayo nabani na.”
UMick wathi ukuba nomonde nokuphulaphula abanye zezona zinto zibalulekileyo azifunde kuyise.
“Kufuneka ube nomonde, kufuneka umamele,” watsho uMick.“Ngomnye wabona bantu banomonde endibaziyo.Ndisafunda ukuba nomonde nokuphulaphula.Kuthatha ubomi bonke, kodwa uye wakwazi oko.”
Enye into abantwana bakaPeters abayifunde kutata wabo nakunina yinto eyenza umtshato nobudlelwane obuhle.
“Basenobuhlobo obuqine kakhulu, ulwalamano olomeleleyo kakhulu.Usambhalela iileta zothando,” utshilo uVanessa.“Yinto encinci le, nanjengoko ndimdala, ndiyayijonga kwaye ndicinga ukuba le yeyona nto kufuneka umtshato ube yiyo.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba bangakanani abantwana bakho, baya kuhlala bengabazali babo, kodwa kwintsapho yakwaPeters, njengoko uVanessa noMick bekhula, olu lwalamano lufana nobuhlobo.
Ukuhlala esofeni kwaye ujonge uVanessa noMick, kulula ukubona ibhongo, uthando kunye nentlonipho uMike Peters anayo ngabantwana bakhe ababini abadala kunye nabantu abaye baba ngabo.
“Sinosapho oluhle kakhulu kunye nosapho olunothando,” utshilo uMike Peters kwilizwi lakhe elithambileyo.Ndinebhongo kakhulu ngabo.
Nangona uVanessa noMick benokudwelisa izinto ezininzi abazifunde kutata wabo ukutyhubela iminyaka, kubawo omtsha uTommy Dyer, abantwana bakhe ababini bangootitshala kwaye ungumfundi.
UTommy Dyer ungomnye wabanini beBrix Brew kunye neTap.Efumaneka kwi-8th St. 813, u-Tommy Dyer unguyise wee-blonde ezimbini ezintle-i-3 1/2 eneminyaka eyi-Lyon kunye no-Lucy oneminyaka eyi-8 ubudala.
“Xa sasinonyana, nathi saqala eli shishini, ngoko ke ndatyala imali eninzi kwinto enye,” utshilo uDell.“Unyaka wokuqala ubunoxinzelelo olukhulu.Ngokwenene kwathatha ixesha elide ukuqhelanisa nje notata wam.Ndandingaziva ndingutata ngokwenene de kwazalwa (uLucy).”
Emva kokuba uDale efumene intombi yakhe encinane, iimbono zakhe ngobutata zatshintsha.Xa kuziwa kuLucy, ukubambana kwakhe kakubi kunye nokuphoswa noLyon yinto acinga kabini ngayo.
“Ndiziva ndingumkhuseli.Ndinethemba lokuba ndiya kuba yindoda ebomini bakhe phambi kokuba atshate,” watsho egona intombi yakhe encinci.
Njengomzali wabantwana ababini obukeleyo noxakeke zizinto zonke, ngokukhawuleza uDell wafunda ukuba nomonde nokunikela ingqalelo kumazwi nakwizenzo zakhe.
“Yonke into encinci iyabachaphazela, ke kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba uthetha izinto ezifanelekileyo ezibangqongileyo,” utshilo uDell.Ziziponji ezincinci, ngoko amazwi nezenzo zakho zibalulekile.
Inye into uDyer athanda ukuyibona yindlela ubuntu bukaLeon noLucy obukhula ngayo kunye nendlela abahluke ngayo.
Uthi: “ULeon luhlobo lomntu ococekileyo, kwaye luhlobo lomntu olungcolisayo, nomzimba opheleleyo.“Iyahlekisa kakhulu.”
“Ukunyaniseka, usebenza nzima,” watsho.Kukho ubusuku obuninzi ndingekho ekhaya.Kodwa kuhle ukuba nexesha kunye nabo kusasa kwaye ugcine le bhalansi.Lo ngumzamo odibeneyo womyeni nenkosikazi, kwaye andinakuyenza ngaphandle kwakhe.
Xa wabuzwa ukuba liliphi icebiso anokulinika abanye ootata abatsha, uDale wathi ngokwenene utata asiyonto onokuyilungiselela.Yenzekile, "yilungise kwaye uyiqonde".
Wathi: “Akukho ncwadi okanye nantoni na onokuyifunda.Wonke umntu wahlukile kwaye uya kuba neemeko ezahlukeneyo.Ke ingcebiso yam kukuthembela kwimvelo yakho kwaye ube nosapho kunye nabahlobo ecaleni kwakho. ”
Kunzima ukuba ngumzali.Oomama abangenamaqabane banzima ngakumbi.Kodwa ukuba ngumzali ongenaqabane womntwana wesini esahlukileyo kunokuba ngomnye weyona misebenzi inzima.
Umhlali waseGreeley uCory Hill kunye nentombi yakhe eneminyaka eli-12 ubudala uAriana bakwazile ukoyisa ucelomngeni lokuba ngumzali ongenaqabane, singasathethi ke ngokuba ngutata wentombazana.U-Hill wanikwa ilungelo lokugcina xa u-Ariane wayeneminyaka eyi-3 ubudala.
“Ndingutata omncinci;”Ndamzala ndina 20 years.Njengezibini ezininzi ezitsha, asizange sizilolonge ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo,” ucacise watsho uHill.“Umama wakhe akakho kwindawo apho anokumnika khona inyameko ayifunayo, ngoko kusengqiqweni ukuba ndimvumele asebenze ngokusisigxina.Ihlala kule meko.”
Uxanduva lokuba ngutata womntwana osakhulayo luncede u-Hill ukuba akhule ngokukhawuleza, kwaye wayincoma intombi yakhe “ngokumgcina enyanisekile kwaye umgcine ephaphile”.
Wathi: “Ukuba bendingenalo olo xanduva, bendinokuqhubeka ndiphila naye."Ndicinga ukuba le yinto elungileyo kwaye iyintsikelelo kuthi sobabini."
Ukukhula nomzalwana omnye kuphela kwaye kungekho dade anokubhekisa kuye, u-Hill kufuneka afunde yonke into malunga nokukhulisa intombi yakhe yedwa.
“Njengoko ekhula, iba lijiko lokufunda.Ngoku ukwishumi elivisayo, kwaye zininzi izinto zasekuhlaleni endingaziyo ukuba ndijongane nazo okanye ndiphendule njani kuzo.Utshintsho lomzimba, kunye notshintsho lweemvakalelo ekungekho namnye kuthi owakhe wajamelana nalo, utshilo u-Hill encumile.“Eli sisihlandlo sokuqala kuthi sobabini, kwaye inokwenza izinto zibengcono.Ngokuqinisekileyo andiyoncutshe kule ndawo-kwaye khange nditsho ukuba ndiyiyo. ”
Xa iingxaki ezifana nokuya exesheni, iibras kunye neminye imiba enxulumene nabasetyhini ivela, u-Hill no-Ariana basebenza kunye ukuze bazisombulule, iimveliso zophando kunye nokuthetha nabahlobo abangabasetyhini kunye nosapho.
“Unethamsanqa lokuba nootitshala ababalaseleyo kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi, kwaye yena nohlobo lootitshala abanxibelelene ngokwenene bamfaka phantsi kokhuseleko lwabo kwaye babonelele ngendima yokuba ngumama,” utshilo u-Hill.“Ndicinga ukuba kuyanceda ngokwenene.Ucinga ukuba kukho abasetyhini abamngqongileyo abanokufumana into endingenako ukumnika yona.”
Olunye ucelomngeni lukaHill njengomzali ongenaqabane luquka ukungakwazi ukuya naphi na ngaxeshanye, ibe nguwe kuphela owenza izigqibo kunye nomondli yedwa.
“Unyanzelekile ukuba uzenzele esakho isigqibo.Awunambono wesibini wokuyeka okanye uncede ukusombulula le ngxaki, ”utshilo uHill.“Kuhlala kunzima, kwaye kuya kwandisa iqondo elithile loxinzelelo, kuba ukuba andikwazi ukukhulisa lo mntwana kakuhle, konke kuxhomekeke kum.
U-Hill uya kunika iingcebiso kwabanye abazali abangenamaqabane, ngakumbi abo tata bafumanisa ukuba bangabazali abangenamaqabane, kufuneka ufumane indlela yokusombulula ingxaki kwaye uyenze inyathelo ngenyathelo.
“Ukuqala kwam ukufumana ilungelo lokugcina uAriana, ndandixakeke ngumsebenzi;Ndandingenamali;Kwafuneka ndiboleke imali yokurenta indlu.Sisokole ixeshana, ”utshilo uHill.“Iyaphambana le.Andizange ndicinge ukuba siya kuphumelela okanye sifikelele kweli nqanaba, kodwa ngoku sinekhaya elihle, ishishini eliqhutywa kakuhle.Kuyaphambana ukuba ungakanani amandla onawo xa ungaqapheli.phezulu.”
Ehleli kwivenkile yokutyela yosapho IBricktop Grill, uAnderson wancuma, nangona amehlo akhe egcwele iinyembezi, xa eqala ukuthetha ngoKelsey.
“Utata ondizalayo akakho kwaphela ebomini bam.Akabizi;akajongi, akukho nto, ngoko ke andizange ndimthathe njengotata,” utshilo uAnderson.“Xa ndandineminyaka emi-3 ubudala, ndabuza uKelsey ukuba wayekulungele na ukuba ngutata wam, yaye wathi ewe.Wenza izinto ezininzi.Wayesoloko esecaleni kwakhe, nto leyo ebaluleke ngokwenene kum.”
“Kwisikolo samabanga aphakathi nakunyaka wam wokuqala nowesibini, wathetha nam ngesikolo nokubaluleka kwesikolo,” utshilo.Ndandicinga ukuba ufuna nje ukundikhulisa, kodwa ndayifunda emva kokungaphumeleli kwiiklasi ezimbalwa.”
Nangona u-Anderson wathatha iiklasi kwi-Intanethi ngenxa yobhubhane, wakhumbula ukuba uKelsey wamcela ukuba avuke ekuseni ukuze alungiselele isikolo, ngokungathi uya eklasini ngokwakhe.
“Kukho ucwangciso lwamaxesha olupheleleyo, ukuze siwugqibe umsebenzi wesikolo kwaye sihlale sizimisele,” utshilo uAnderson.